Gina's reaction to: "To Call or to Text? That is the question.

By Gina:

So here we are, at a hip & chic lounge; I’m sipping a cosmopolitan and you’re sipping Johnnie Walker Red. We’re eyeing each other up all night long, I’m running my hands through the bottom of my hair staring at you and smiling with my body towards you welcoming you to come over and talk to me. You finally walk over to me and we talk, laugh, you buy me a few more drinks and as my girls and I are leaving, you politely ask for my number. As I’m walking away, I’m thinking, wonder if he’ll call and you’re wondering when should I call?

The above situation seems to happen every Friday & Saturday night at bars, clubs, and lounges all over. It may not have the same details but you get the picture. This is a predicament we always get ourselves into. It has a very simple solution, don’t call. Text. I know this may come as a shocker, a woman who would rather get a text message then a phone call. I think texting helps avoid all the awkwardness and fear that comes with the first time phone conversation.

Now, let’s get this straight; ladies, if we get his number, WE MAKE THE FIRST MOVE.  This is a new era ladies, Jay-Z said it himself, ladies is pimps too! Once a man gives you his number, text him the next afternoon. As women we are more inclined to text or call as soon as we meet someone because we’re very emotional. We can’t do this, text the next afternoon. This way he is surprised and has been, hopefully, wondering why you haven’t texted him. Men, if we give you our number, use it. Now, when you use it, text us the next day in the morning. Why? Because it’ll give us time to want you more.

Before I touch on why texting is so amazing and thank God man invented it, I’ll tell you all the bad things that can happen if you call before text. Calling someone can be an inconvenience, what if you call and they’re busy? Okay let’s give this scenario the benefit of the doubt and no party is busy. So were chatting about the weather, the news, and the night before and then all of a sudden… silence. Yes, the awkward first time phone conversation silence. Then, the conversation picks up and now we’re talking over one another and apologizing. Lastly, the silence again and someone decides to go because they have something to do. One word, awkward.

But, if you texted before you had that first phone convo; it could be like this. You text him/her and say hey it’s so & so and then a what’s up, he/she will reply back and then keep the convo going. We avoid the awkward silence, we avoid the weird talking over one another, and we have a great exit strategy. If the conversation isn’t interesting, just don’t respond and say you fell asleep!