Ariel's reaction to "To Call or to Text? That is the question."

By Ariel:

You meet a guy at the bar and when you part ways, he asks for your number. There are two options here. First tell him no, you aren’t interested… at some point of the night while conversing he tried to spill his drink on your shirt and then tried to dry your boobs with a napkin, ummm no thank you…

But the second option is to give him your cell phone number.  Here’s the deal, if he’s smart he’ll call you right then and there so you’d have his number too and he’s also just confirmed that you gave him your real number.  Also, it reaffirms that he copied your number correctly in his phone… so no “I lost/mistyped your number excuses.”

So should he call or text,  or since you have his number do you initiate?

I am old school and I definitely think he should call first but not the next day. Definitely wait a day or two. Because really, if it was a Saturday night and you were drinking heavy, aren’t you a little hung over and perhaps not recollecting all the important bits? Plus you need to check in with your girls… who was I talking to? Was he cute? Once you have confirmation that he was cute! Then you can wait with wonderful anticipation… is he going to call? Isn’t he going to call? That’s part of the fun.

So I think Monday, or Tuesday phone call. And most people over the age of 22 have jobs, so call after work around 5:30 or 6:00. You can call later or earlier, and if they don’t answer LEAVE A MESSAGE! The phone call is important because there are a lot of voice inflections that can’t be conveyed through text. How are you going to tell if he’s funny or charming or if there’s a click between you two if it’s through texting? Now after the first call, you can definitely text. But seriously any guy who’s texting first and also using emoticons in that first conversation… I’ve got to question…

If you girls do want to initiate contact, that’s okay. You are taking the pressure off the guys but really… don’t you want them to work for it a little bit? You aren’t playing hard to get by waiting for him to call first. Besides he has your number, if he’s interested in talking to you, he’ll call.